queer wedding story

i’m queer, i’m getting married. this is our story.

Progress! May 11, 2007

Filed under: ceremony,m,me — Misslissa @ 11:07 am

I’ve been out of town for work so things have been a little slow around here. Finally home though after driving through the wilds of northern BC. It’s really beautiful up there, but I’m not ready to live somewhere that has one road going in and out, a rec centre and a Saan. I missed everything from traffic and seagulls to fresh vegetables. I had to eat salad for dinner last night because I felt like my insides were covered in grease!

Just before I left, in the middle of packing, M and I came up with a ceremony plan. We’ve both been so scared of this bit, neither of us is big into talking in front of large groups of people and we’re also prone to weeping when we talk about love.

We’ve asked a beloved friend to officiate the wedding and though she’s a lawyer, she can’t ‘officially’ do it, she has agreed to ask the important questions and let us kiss at the end. Having barbara perform the ceremony was very important to both of us so we decided to get the legal stuff sorted separately from the wedding. This makes it so we can have someone we love up there with us rather than a stranger. In Canada, you can’t just ask your friend to get ordained online and get up there with you, apparently it’s not legally binding! I’m sure we’ll manage this way.

Welcome (barbara)
Reading (friend)
All about love (general stuff, barbara)
Promises (us)
Reading (friend)
All about love (specific stuff, barbara)
Exchange of rings (we’re going to use some of Derek Powazek’s wordsAriel‘s idea – as well as a lovely tradition mentioned in Dan Savage’s book)

After we figured out it wouldn’t be that much talking, we both calmed down. I like it, everything we want to express and to show, with a little help from our friends. Speaking of.. If there are any people out there, I would love to see some of your favourite readings, sayings, stories etc. This wedding business is tough, sharing ideas is the only way we’ll all get through it!